Let Men Pay the bill

Let Men Pay the bill

Let Men Pay the bill can be triggering for feminine men and masculine women. Women who scream about equality in the urban parts of the country have no idea that the situation is worse in rural India. I belong to a small town and moved out of it when I was 21 years old because of a lack of education and opportunities, unreasonable expectations from women and more importantly the double standards I used to see. This blog is an extended version of my other blog “what equality means in feminism” with more clarity and examples.

Being able to see rural and urban India made me understand where exactly the problem comes from and get milder when it reaches urban India. India is a country that lives several centuries at once and this blog is majorly a comparison between rural and urban India to make you understand that only urban people are screaming for equality and you have no idea how messed up and unaffected rural India is from all this. And let me remind you rural India still covers almost 70% of our country. Let me give you real life examples as to why am I asking you to let men pay the bill.

Because they want to: The first and foremost reason to let men pay the bill is, “Because they want to.” Men derive their value by giving, it makes them feel important. And as a woman it makes you feel loved when you receive. Receiving is biology for women and giving is biology for men. I can go on and on about this one but I would rather let you read my other articles where I have explained how feminine and masculine energies work. The moment you understand that, you understood the assignment.

Let’s not fake equality when it’s not real: After the 2nd lockdown I came back home for few months and it’s been only a week and I already started seeing the glimpse of the 1970s. People have kept a 10 years old girl maid. People have a huge houses here and she cleans every bit of it and then goes to school afterwards. I asked my mother, why don’t people keep anyone older to work? In her opinion, they don’t clean as we want them to. Child labour is a problem here I know. However, if you come to rural India, you need to arrest probably everyone.

My nephew is 6 years old, we eat together every day. He sweetly says, “Bua (Brother’s sister) will feed me”. I love it when I feel needed, I feed him every day. I have a broken leg as of now so after finishing the food I have to wash my hands on the plate and my nephew keeps the plate in the kitchen sink every time. One day my brother was there when we finished the food and I asked my nephew to keep the plate in the sink like I do every day. My brother said, “He will drop the plate don’t let him do it”. So my brother got up and put the plate in the kitchen sink himself.

What made me surprise the most here was, you can let a 10-year-old girl take care of the entire house but can’t let your own son put even a plate in the sink. I am going to let this thought sync in.

The difference between Urban and Rural India: If you want to see why feminism started and why women got so pissed off back in 1950s in the west, you can come to rural India. People are so unaware of what they are even doing wrong which the entire world is loudly aware about. Equal rights is a foreign concept in small cities. Keeping a little girl as a maid, marrying a girl child right after she turned 18, not considered for higher education and making her financially dependent on others and then making her feel like a burden is a normal thing in rural India. Urban women are lucky to have these cases in few and at least women have a voice there.

The urban perspective: When it comes to equal treatment, people are talking about equal money all the time. People are trying to divert the topic or maybe they are confused as to what equality exactly is, they keep asking women to pay bills equally, without considering that nothing is equal as of now. And young girls are totally getting influenced by all this. Some women are earning more than men but the numbers are still a minority. Men and women are built differently on a physical level and whether you accept it or not, men have an advantage because of that.

When it comes to relationships, equality is about equal love, consideration, kindness, generosity, warmth, respect and many other things but counting the money. Money is a concern when you don’t have it and a real men’s clan is very classy for counting money like this with a woman. Believe me, masculine and generous men don’t care if you pay the bill or not, they just want to see you happy and consider their honour that you receive from them.

Receiving from a man is an art and they will always be happy when you know the art of graciously receiving. All these generous and chivalrous activities keep your oestrogen level high and stress levels low which makes you feel more feminine and that makes your man feel masculine and fall for you over and over again. That is why my ladies, don’t let anyone trick you into fake equality that only counts money. Don’t let them shame you with the words like demanding, high maintenance, gold digger or whatsoever words until things are actually equal. Until then, let men pay the bill.