Femininity works in your favor

Men & Femininity: Things will get interesting and might get controversial here. Believe it or not, men are a sucker for femininity. If you try to bend a dry and hard tree branch, it will break, but when you bend a soft moistured tree branch, it will bend easily. That “moisture/water” is a woman in a man’s life. Masculine energy is stiff (male ego), easily influenced, hence easily corrupted or nurtured. A person, especially a man, can be easily shaped/nurtured/moulded in childhood. Then what happens when you need to make a grown man agree with you in your beautiful relationship? Well, that’s when your feminine power comes into the picture. If some area of your man’s personality is not watered/nurtured in his childhood, you need to give that particular area the amount of water required so that it bends that hard tree branch and only the soft feminine energy can bend a stubborn male ego. Imagine two dry tree branches fighting together, they will both break each other. Ladies, at this moment, you need to remember your power. If you also become that hard tree branch, you are not going to help the situation. Remember you are water, that has the power to cut even the mountains and make their own way. If you give a lot of water to that brown, dry tree branch, it is not going to become green again, but surely will bend for you.
I have a great personal example of the power of femininity. I was in New Delhi in 2011. It was December 25th. I was walking around with a man at India Gate at midnight. There used to be a lot of families as well at India Gate back in the day, so I didn’t feel unsafe until 4 other men came into the picture.
Now the man I was with, had a northeastern look. Those unknown 4 men started speaking among themselves loudly, “What do Indian girls like in these Nepalese.” We knew that it was for us. They were passing all these racist comments and kept following us. I requested my man to ignore them completely but the male ego didn’t listen and I foresee a conflict. I was concerned about my safety and I didn’t see my man listening to me, so I suddenly stood in front of him and softly put my hand on his chest (I felt his heartbeat going down) and raised my other hand towards those 4 men requesting them to stop, without even mouthing anything. There was no anger on my face, it was a polite but strong request, not to put me into trouble. I didn’t think it would work, but all 5 men suddenly left the situation, as if nothing happened. I could not believe that I avoided the situation with a simple gesture and within 5 seconds everything was back to normal.
Women were pushovers back in the day and now we have become too “needy” for our freedom and rights. Unknowingly we are pushing the wrong buttons in men, which leads to digging our own graves in a relationship. Now let me explain what “needy” exactly means. Needing someone/something shows your standards/wants/expectations when you need something, you convey the need to the other person and trust that the other person will not disappoint you. Being needy is doing the same thing but with the feeling of distrust. Hence, you become passive-aggressive, start taunting, nagging and give them the silent treatment. Or maybe You say things like, “Ahh forget it, I will do it myself.” (I have been there myself)

If you are thinking it is going to work on men. Well, men process a little differently. Whenever we start being needy, they feel that we are being ungrateful for whatever they have done for us so far, so why they should do more if we are not appreciating them for what they have already done. Now here, balance is the key. I have an example for you here. I was lying in bed with my man and he was showing me something on his mobile while eating cookies. I wanted to rest my head on his chest but the cookie crumbs were all over the bed and I have requested him many times before not to eat on the bed but he doesn’t listen. I got a little angry but rather than yelling at him saying sentences like, “How many times have I told you…” I expressed myself exactly how I felt, “Baby I want to rest my head on your chest but there are crumbs on your shirt and bed.” He immediately got up and cleaned everything and never repeated that again. You don’t need to be his doormat and keep ignoring your own needs and standards. Also, you don’t need to be too aggressive and lose your grace and feminine self because he is not meeting your needs. Once you know how to keep that balance and hit the sweet spot, you will be the woman of his dreams that he would never want to let go of. (Let me know in the comments if you want me to write another blog about how to keep that balance).