5 ways to have calm personality. We all aspire to have calm and stillness in our aura, a proud face with a humble smile. Emotional ups and downs are a part of life and it is hard to stay smiling and positive in every situation but these 5 things will give you peace, happiness and stability in your thoughts most of the time, that too without spending any money. It will recharge your drained energy, which will help you handle the darkest moments of your life with grace.
Meditation/Yoga: One of the best ways to achieve calmness is to know yourself. Meditation and Yoga can help you observe your thoughts and find physical and mental balance. When you will start meditating, it will be overwhelming at first and you won’t be able to concentrate. However, do not stop your thoughts, let them cross your mind. Your job is to observe them. It is scientifically proven, humans have 90% repeated thoughts in a day.
Hence, you are going to get bored of your own thoughts after a point and you will start finding answers/solutions during the process. Once you are bored of your same thoughts, your brain will be at peace and this becomes an addiction which is more powerful than alcohol.
Yoga or any form of exercise helps you achieve balance and discipline. You get a great body which improves your mental health and confidence too. Click here if you want to learn how to meditate.
Self-Soothing: People who have attachment styles leaning towards anxiousness have the tendency to seek validation and reassurance from the outside which soothes them. And people who are avoidant attached find self soothing through alcohol, movies, or Netflix series. Both are unhealthy coping mechanisms. It is important to self-soothe healthily by regulating your emotions. First step is to simply let your self feel whatever you are feeling, accept your feelings, then figure out what you can do bout it.
Once you achieve healthy self-soothing, it will be a big step towards inner peace. It will naturally bring calm to your personality from inside. Writing in my journal, deep breathing, walking in nature is what I do to self-soothe, everyone has their own ways, find your way which doesn’t distract you from your feelings and makes you observe them even more.
Right Food: I have noticed, that when I eat greens, proteins, healthy fats, fibre, vitamin etc. consistently and give my body exactly what it needs rather than junk food, it rewards me with physical strength and a fast brain. Eating healthy food that your body needs, improves mental health. There is a concept called “Satvik Food” in Hindu religion. There are certain types of food like onion, garlic, non vegetarian food etc. to be avoided if you need to follow the Satvik diet. It is been said, that if you follow Satvik food diet, it has a calming effect on your brain.
Detox can also be a great help. It flushes out the toxins, improves the gut health and gradually you feel lighter in the body calmer in the brain. Check out my blog for effective detox drinks.
Vulnerability: Being vulnerable is power, let me start with that. Saying what you need to exactly when you need to, invites a lot of positive outcomes and less drama. I have tested vulnerability in the workplace, in family relationships, romantic relationships and I was never disappointed. If you think, you need space, say it, or you need reassurance, ask for it but without expecting the outcome, otherwise, you are only inviting fights and drama. We all need to learn to be vulnerable without expectations.
When we open our hearts without any expectations, without trying to control the outcome, then only we get positive results. Being vulnerable in real-time doesn’t build up any negative energy and doesn’t invite assumptions and this makes us less anxious at every step of the process. Once we learn the art of vulnerability, we will find a calmer and happier version of ourselves.
Nature: It is scientifically proven that being around any kind of nature like flowers and fragrances that comes from it, green or colourful plants in the balcony, walking in the fields or forest, on a daily basis has a calming effect on your brain. That is why aroma therapies are such a hit. Having real plants in the house not only teaches us to be caring and nurturing, but nature and good fragrances around you also give you relaxation, freshness and a divinely calm effect on your brain.
Sleep: If you made it till the end of the blog, here is the bonus for you. Sleep tight darling. Minimum 6 hours. I remember sleeping for 4-5 hours consistently for 2 weeks and having terrible acne on my face. The next day I took 8 hours of sleep and 40% of my acne was calmed down and my irritation was reduced drastically. Many people can literally feel their behaviour changing due to lack of sleep but for some people it will be more quite symptoms. Sleep is crucial for your daily recovery and better digestion system, never sacrifice it for little daily stress.
God has given us what we “Need” for free, it’s us humans made money important to have the things that we “Want”.
