How to stay unaffected by your surroundings as a woman? Most women’s core is feminine energy and it is a receiving energy. Hence, women absorb the environment around them and reflect back. That’s why they are manipulated, confused, and influenced easily. Many women feel judged, ashamed, embarrassed, controlled, unworthy, and weak because of their surroundings, and those surroundings start from childhood. Doesn’t matter how confident you try to feel, your surroundings can put your energy down every now and then if you don’t draw a line. So how to draw that line and protect ourselves from all the negativity and take control of ourselves when we have been trained to listen to others all our lives? Keep reading.
Heal your wounded energy– Many women are operating from their wounded feminine energy today, and that’s why they are more into their heads than their bodies or too much in their bodies rather than using their heads. We need to find a balance. As a woman your core is feminine energy and it will benefit you the most when you heal it. Healing the wounded feminine energy doesn’t mean that you need to completely eliminate the masculine but it’s about balancing both the energy healthily. Feminine energy is so powerfully intuitive that it makes you feel what is right for you and what is not. You need to be connected with your body to listen to it.
The more you heal and get connected to your body and feelings the more it is easy for you to have courage to disagree with something that is not in your well-being. Meditation and journaling are something that worked for me to begin with. Move your body through dance, yoga, etc. to get in touch with your feminine flowy energy. Read this blog to balance your feminine and masculine energies.
Be aware of how men affect you– Let’s start with men. They are misunderstood on another level. There is something called ‘hero instinct.’ Men want to be a hero in everyone’s eyes, especially their loved ones. Because men can’t seem to justify their existence, they feel valued and fulfilled by providing/serving others. Providing solutions, safety, finance, etc. is their basic instinct. This is actually a pro up to an extent but the con is, if you are someone’s daughter, sister, wife, girlfriend, etc. you are going to get a lot of unsolicited advice and unwanted opinions because they want to solve your problems.
There are some men who behave like a provider but they actually want something out of you. You want to stay away from these ones, every help is not a good help. Most men are trying to be valued so badly that they start mansplaining, cut you off when you speak, they will try to solve your problem when you just want to share, etc. Women need to draw a line which is called boundaries, and not get affected by all that heavy energy that is coming to you otherwise it will affect your decision making power. Men are just doing their job, but when it comes to you, you need to decide when that job ends, otherwise it can traumatizing in way that can break your confidence.
Now let’s talk about how women put other women down. When a woman is in her toxic feminine energy, she will keep comparing herself to others and will never be happy with herself. Hence, she has the urge to gossip, shame, judge, and embarrass other women. As women we need to realise that femininity takes pride in receiving. Hence, you need to consciously choose not to compare yourself to others. When someone receives better and more than you, it is a basic feminine instinct to feel jealous if you don’t have your masculinity in balance. People are trying to make you fight with other women on the basis of your receiving instinct. This is been going on for generations now and it’s time to stop stealing your fellow women’s wind. Choose consciously not to get affected by all this.
Start saying NO– Do you know what I am talking about? BOUNDERIES. Yes, saying No is drawing the line without any guilt which sadly women haven’t been taught. Most woman who says No, feels a lot of fear of abandonment or guilt later. Women make wrong decisions to avoid feeling bad later.
A woman who has received a healthy amount of love, care, and affection and has been provided with finance, safety, and solutions in a healthy way since childhood, doesn’t have guilt or fear of abandonment in saying No, they have high self-worth, which sadly most women don’t. No parenting is perfect and some parents are way too far from perfect. Hence, as an adult, work on your self awareness and healing your traumas. Because without any boundaries, all your feminine qualities will be misused and will make your femininity wounded and this cycle will be repeated. Break the cycle.