Gold Digger or High Standards? I personally don’t prefer to talk about this topic but when I saw young girls confused when they were dumped for being too nice and wanting nothing but love, been called a gold digger for having high standards and knowing their worth, by men who have no gold to dig, and women going 50-50 under pressure when their pay checks are not even equal to the men they are dating, then I thought enough is enough, let’s talk about this.
Let’s start with the definition of a gold digger according to google.
Google says, “A person who forms a relationship with another purely to extract money from them.”
The word I want you to pay attention to here is, “Purely.” Everyone likes money and everyone wants money because of obvious reasons then what makes a gold digger different?
Gold diggers are unhealed women: A gold digger is someone who jumps from one person to another or stays with someone Just because the person has a lot of money. She does not care about any other quality the person brings to the table. She is into her masculine energy and doesn’t care about how she actually feels. Gold diggers are not really emotionally invested in another person.
They are operating from the survival mentality.
She is someone who is from poor background according to her life expectations which she wants to fulfil in an easy way. She can put everything aside if she gets the lifestyle that she dreams of.
However, doesn’t having better lifestyle and money every woman’s dream? The difference is, only a gold digger will trade her integrity, respect and pride for it.
A women with standards: Is every poor or middle class family girl a gold digger? NOOOOOOO. Women who have been taught values and meaning of having respect in the society, they don’t give themselves to everyone, doesn’t matter where she comes from. In fact, generally poor and middle class family women are taught “Money is not everything” concept.
These women make the mistake of devaluing the importance of money and overrating the importance of emotions. Both these women doesn’t have balance. So a gold digger loves only money and women with values and dignity devalues the importance of money.
The balanced feminine women who has standards plus “Who understands men very well” understands that men derive their value by providing for their woman, family and society.
She doesn’t sell herself short because she knows her worth. She naturally attracts a masculine man with provider mentality and she allows him to provide for her. YES! you read that right, she allows him. Because women with standards don’t receive from everyone just because the other person is ready to give and have a lot to give. She understands that at some point in life, she has to depend on a man, so she makes sure that she chooses a man who has such qualities that makes her feel safe enough to depend on him.
Obviously not every rich man has these qualities but most men has the desire and capability to reach their high potential but this desire has to genuinely come from within him. Hence, women with standards never try to fix him and bring him to her level. He himself has to be inspired enough to meet her standards. With such woman a man has to fasten his seat belts and up his game because she is not gonna be impressed by “just” his money, she needs more than that.
She is more than okay to settle down with a millionaire if the billionaire doesn’t have those qualities that she wants. But a gold digger will choose the billionaire regardless. That’s the difference.
Why women are attracted towards men with money but are not gold diggers: Before I get into this, I want to talk about the days when concept of money didn’t exist. The barter system days when people used to trade stuff with each other. If people claim women only like men with money then women were attracted to men back then as well, they married men back then as well, they fell in love back then as well. So what was the criteria for women to be with a man, what was the attraction based on?
Women simply go for men they can trust, feel safe with, respect and admire, if and when they have a choice. A man who can trade a comb with a bald guy for rice, is the man a women will respect. He has manipulation and convincing skills so he can be a good provider for the family. A man who sacrifices his comfort to provide for the family, that’s the man she admires, because he is the one she can rely on and trust to be taken care of. There are many qualities masculine men has, I just named few.
Now these qualities are directly equal to having money because the way these qualities got stuff back in barter days, now these qualities gets you money. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea to earn so much money.
Money is a result of hard work, sacrifice, consistency. It shows someone is not dictated by their mood. These are the few of the many qualities women admire in men. And that’s why every women is attracted to rich men but only high value women have the quality to calm their horses down when she is around them and keep this in mind that, not every rich man has the qualities she wants. Otherwise many women are bending over backwards for such men and that’s what is making them spoilt in the modern era.
It’s masculine’s job to take care of feminine: I didn’t say it’s a man’s job, I said, it’s masculine’s job. So what does it mean?
If you are familiar with feminine and masculine concept then you already know what I am talking about, otherwise you can watch my YouTube video to understand this concept or keep reading.
You need to understand the basic traits of feminine and masculine energy which are mentioned below and understand that men and women both have both the energies in them. However, women’s core is feminine and men’s core is masculine energy.
| Feminine Traits | Masculine Traits |
| Being energy Receiving energy Feels more Into her heart Intuitive Creative energy Goes with flow Gracefulness Empathy Tenderness Supportiveness Expressiveness Emotional Kind Sensitivity, etc. | Doing energy Providing energy Thinks more Into his head Strength Result oriented Protective Courage Assertiveness Independence Leadership Sacrifice, etc. |
Feminine energy is creative, but masculine has the discipline and structure to bring that creativity into reality. Feminine has the power of feelings, emotions, compassion and empathy to understand other’s heart and connect with others but without logical thinking feminine will consume herself into everyone which can be exhausting and she can be manipulated as well. Feminine goes with the flow but without masculine’s protective nature she will not be able to sense the danger coming.
Now, either you have to have a man who brings these masculine qualities in your life, or you need to develop these within yourself to give your feminine some base, which I highly recommend because you need to balance some masculine energy within yourself as well. You can’t give yourself to someone else completely and lose your individuality.
Think of it as an egg. The egg shell is masculine and the yolk is feminine. The moment shell breaks, the yolk flows everywhere. It doesn’t have any direction, any structure. It’s care free and free flowing.
Feminine can flourish and thrive when she has masculine to back her up to survive first. Because feminine has natural power to manifest whatever she wants. So when she has masculine to back her up to survive well, then she can make both thrive.
That’s why in Indian culture women have been called “Lakshmi” the goddess of wealth.
That’s why the nature has given this responsibility to the masculine to protect, provide and be the hard strong pillar for feminine. That’s how masculine is built. And in return, the masculine just want to be appreciated and admired and this is the code gold diggers have cracked. I am quite impressed with it to be honest.
They exactly know how to talk to men and how to make them feel so they would want to be with her, commit to her or marry her without investing too much of herself. Where the nice girl is keep on trying to do too much in relationships thinking it will make a man stay. No it won’t. A man doesn’t feel like a man or a hero when he get’s into the receiving role in the relationship.
The nice girl doesn’t understand that.
I call it, “The nice girl” syndrome. The nice girl is pleasing him, where the gold digger is pleasing him just enough so he feels like pleasing her back. Both these women are disconnected from their feminine energy because they both are too much into their head, but the gold digger is at least using it smartly, she is a manipulator, so she is at least surviving well. But look for how long she can keep a high value man through this manipulation.
High value man behaviours: He can spot the difference between a gold digger and a women with standards. Only a man with low self esteem won’t be able to identify or stay with a gold digger even though she is not actually investing in him. Money doesn’t buy you emotional intelligence to identify right person.
A high value man is healthily in touch with his feminine side as well and that’s why he has a little better emotional intelligence, he knows what he wants in a woman, he is a leader who is in service of others and of course such men are rarely found, most of them are just potentially high value. So let’s not blame only a gold digger to be a gold digger, let’s blame some men as well who are accepting to be with a gold digger. Don’t forget there are always two people in any relationship. Read this blog for understanding more about divine masculinity and how it works. And it’s not limited to only men.
A note to all young girls in their 20s: I want you to know, you might be meeting most boys at this age, they will take time finding their manhood. Only a man with no gold will call every high standard women a gold digger. Rich men will either be with a gold digger or simply reject them because they have better standards. The thought of gold digger bothers only those who doesn’t have gold.
I want you to know that it’s a man’s job to take care of you and trust me a masculine man feels fulfilled by doing so. If a man doesn’t treat you the way you treat yourself or better, there is no point of him being in your life. Don’t try to receive from those who doesn’t have anything to give or doesn’t want to give, emotionally or financially. If you try to fix him, it will emasculate him.
Most women are simply want to be taken care of by the masculine and feel safe and chances are you are one of those lovely girls because gold diggers are not reading this. They don’t even get hurt when someone calls them a gold digger. So never feel guilty in receiving from a man, it DOESN’T MAKE YOU A GOLD DIGGER, you are simply a receiving energy, that’s how god made you and when you give, you never forget to multiply. You need to know men are dying to have a women in their lives who knows how to gracefully receive.
It’s a natural instinct for a healed feminine women to go for a man who is more masculine than her. That doesn’t make her a gold digger, she is just the yolk inside the egg.
