What Equality Means In Feminism
Why is feminism going against women now?
What equality means in feminism is something even women are confused about, so forget about men. The concept of feminism started in women’s favour. However, this concept has been twisted and misunderstood by the human brain now and it is going against women now. I have seen well-known celebrities describing feminism in one word, “Equality.” After listening to many men and picking their brains, I realised men are not able to understand or feel what exactly we as women mean by equality. Generally People thing EQUAL means SAME. Well, not necessarily true when it comes to men and women equality.
Equality in Feminism: Long story short, feminism is basically “asking for equal rights as men have in the society on the basis of equality.” Feminism is the freedom to make the same choices as men and not being judged/threatened/disliked/shunned for it in society. When we talk about equality we confuse men because men are logical beings, they are more into their brains and women are into their hearts. So when we speak out about our rights not being equal, men subconsciously starts to compare women and men and saying how different they are.
Now here is the catch that men and specifically women are missing, “Men and women are equal only on a human level but we both bring way different things to the table.” Men and women don’t have to be SAME to be EQUAL. A man has more physical strength but emotional power still wins during childbirth, even when the pain is equivalent to breaking every bone in your body. Men and women have different strengths and there is a beauty in that difference.
Biologically, women have higher oestrogen and men has higher testosterone that makes them process the same kind of feelings and emotions very differently. They fall in love differently, they handle stress differently, and process emotions differently. Just because men and women have different forte doesn’t mean you can disregard women’s and only glorify man’s. Watch this video below from Koffee with Karan for an example.
When we say cast members, it includes all the lead characters in the film. I am not saying that they have intentionally disregarded the contribution of women in the industry but actress’s names did not come up. No one has noticed this yet, looks like I am the first one noticing it. This is the equality women ask for which is not been given consciously or subconsciously.
Feminist v/s Feminazi: Somehow the difference between these two is blurred. Just so we are on the same page, real feminists do not run around slapping men, hating men or demeaning men. A real feminist woman understands the need for a man in her life. Hence, hating men is out of the picture for her. A woman who does vice versa is a feminazi. Being feminazi is confusing men and rubbing them the wrong way and that is definitely not benefitting women at all. If you want to become the woman that a man admires, moves mountains for, his heart skips a beat when thought of you leaving him crosses his mind, then splitting the bill with a man doesn’t just make you independent it also make you exhausted, unloved and a fool.
Men As Feminist: Men who are balanced in their masculine and feminine energy are the actual feminist. We need more men to be feminists than the women. Do you know who abolished SATI PRATHA? It was a man and not a woman. Women were jumping into the fire even if they didn’t want to and men did not do anything about it but there was one man “Raja Ram Mohan Roy” who stood against it and put an end to the PRATHA. We need more men like that, who have the heart to understand the pain and courage to stand for the cure.
In conclusion, when feminism started, women were suppressed on a level that we can’t even imagine today. Feminism got women the right to education, driving licence, vote for the country etc. It has done a lot for women. However, when it comes to relationships between men and women it is always better to respect the differences we have and understand both genders have different strengths and they are equally valuable. Relationships don’t generally need feminism, they need mutual respect, empathy, kindness and consideration.
I hope you enjoyed this article. If yes, then I would recommend reading my blog “Let men pay the bill”
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